Unapologetic

For years growing up, I wondered how I would figure out who I am.  What do I want?  Why am I the way I am?  I tend to live my life on the edge of my emotions.  They swallow me up and swirl me around until the next emotion comes along.  It’s like traveling by tornado after tornado.  The pounding hail of anger.  The spinning winds of elation.  The soaking rains of sadness.  They fill me up; they tear me down.

I’ve finally learned to embrace this quality. Some people go through life hiding their feelings.  Denying what makes them who they are to put on a mask and appear different to the faces looking back at them.  I go through life hanging on to every moment.  I’m influenced by every experience.  For all the fun, love, hardships and heartache I’ve been through, I’ve held on to it all and let it steer my steps to my future.  The good and the bad have special places in my soul where they linger swimmingly and occasionally rise to the surface.        

I’m not outrageous.  I’m not dramatic.  

However, I am empathetic.  I’m impulsive.  I’m unapologetic.  I like this about me.  I feel like I’m experiencing life even if I’m not traipsing from country to country backpacking.  I savor any food or drink I consume.  I leave movies feeling like I could have played one of the characters.  Every song has a meaning to me, some deeper than others.  If you ask for advice, you’ll get my honest opinion.  Not one that’s walked over eggshells first.  Don’t worry, I’m considerate of others’ feelings.  I even put myself in your place best as I can before giving my two cents.  Some may think I’m odd, or intrusive, or even naive, but my experiences are what they are because other people’s experiences were meshed with mine.  I’m just as interested in others as I am my own life.  

The best part is, for everything I look back on in my past, I look on it fondly.  Even the lowest of the lows.  It’s what has shaped me.  What has helped me get to this point today.  If I had denied myself the pleasure of passionate feelings, no matter how blissful or dismal, I may not have seen the lessons.

What’s the point of the oversharing today?  Don’t just live your life…love it.  And if you don’t love it…change it, find a way.  It’s the only one you’ve got.

10 Things I Learned on Twitter in 2010

I’d say, for me, this has been the year of the Twitter.  I discovered it when I started blogging and thought it would be great to help my writing.  Which it has, in wonderful ways that I would have never thought.  However, I’ve also learned a few interesting commonalities about people from some of the amazing folks I follow.

1.)  No one likes to wear pants.

It’s true!  There’s tags like #nopants and #pantsoff to prove it.  Apparently the restriction is just too much for people to take at the end of the day.  Quite frankly, I’m glad to see it’s nothing to be ashamed of. 

2.)  EVERYONE likes bacon.

I’m sure there’s plenty of foods that are big favorites, but the love of bacon has got to be the purest.  And I am certainly included in that group.  Greasy and limp, or burnt to a crisp, it doesn’t matter…it’s all heaven.

3.)  You never need to feel alone when there’s a hashtag for everything.

There are loads of popular hashtags on Twitter.  Friday nights you can join #wineparty.  All day Friday you can post what you’re reading with a #FridayReads tag.  If you’re writing any time of day, use #amwriting.  If you have great advice for writers, post it with #writingtips.  When I post my blog from All About Momsense, I use #mommyblogger.  If there’s a need, a hashtag will fill it.

4.)  Celebrities are normal people.  Mostly.

I have chatted with Scott Grimes (ER, Band of Brothers) and Kellie Martin (Life Goes On, ER, Christy) and they are two of lots of fantastic people that answer back and tweet about every day life.  They help you remember that they are just like us and want to enjoy life with their families and friends and get through the day.  Whether talking about amazing homemade recipes or being plain silly, they really are just like you and me.

5.)  All ridiculous occurrences should be shared with photos.

Did you just see a complete stranger with the worst hair ever?  Tweet it.  Have you found a store that has a completely innocent sign that reads like a dirty joke.  You need to share that.   New shoes?  Going out and need someone to check your outfit?  Share it, get the feedback, feel redeemed. 

6.)  Everyone’s children are out of hand.

Kids pooping in hallways, screaming about candy, feeding the household pets table food…it’s all there.  It’s not a result of bad parenting.  It’s a result of life.  When everyone says your kids are angels, so well behaved, Twitter knows the truth.  They are bad, and they are wonderful.  We know every hair pulling, heartstring tugging moment.  Good and bad, it’s all there in 140 characters.

7.)  News travels fastest on Twitter.

If someone dies, thousands of people are informed in seconds.  If a child is missing, everyone soon has a copy of a face to look for.  If someone is missing, Twitter is looking for them.  It only takes a few moments for information to spread.  The domino effect of tweet after tweet being passed should be record breaking. 

8.)  Outdated sayings are welcome…even encouraged.  Or create your own!

I haven’t used “word” as an affirmation since I was in middle school.  Suddenly, it’s everywhere.  Things like “awesomesauce” and “for realz” are probably my personal favorites.  Acronyms are a requirement, as well, with only 140 per tweet.  OMG, BTW, IDK, IKR, IRL…the list is endless. 

9.)  Even professionals can be goofy. 

Sure, some people are here for the social media marketing benefits.  Having Facebook, Twitter and blogs all contribute to spreading your name around and gathering an audience.  But sometimes, it helps to share a bit of your personal side to show you aren’t a robot.  An offhand comment can be like loosening your tie at the office party.  Relax, enjoy. 

10.)  Twitter cares.

There is an incredible support system within the Twitter-folk.  If someone is sad, others will encourage him.  If someone needs help, we look for suggestions.  We talk, we listen, we make each other laugh.  We send each other food and drinks.  There is a heartfelt connection that we create with each other. 

It may seem immature to some, but Twitter has built an increasing web of friends, colleagues and confidants that I never thought I would have.  I’ve become close with people hundreds of miles away.  And for as much as I try to learn about each and every one of them, I hope they know that their friendship is something I truly treasure.